2008 Chinese Love Report： Eighty percent of online love ended in failure.
marriage
Most people feel dull.
Average score of "marital happiness": 61.77.
There are great differences on how long the marriage can last. The proportion of choosing "life" and "let nature take its course, live well and leave if it is not good" is almost the same, but neither of them can reach half of the total votes. However, everyone agrees that there can be love outside marriage.
Only 30% approve of extramarital affairs.
Then, "if you really meet the right person, will you choose an extramarital affair?" The answer to this question is rare in this survey, and all the options are evenly matched, that is, more than 30% choose "yes", "depending on the situation" and "no", and none of them obviously wins.
For the choice after the extramarital affair, there is also a situation of no difference, and the proportion of choosing "make a decision and return to the family" is equivalent to that of "family and lover are right". For the explanation of extramarital love, the theory of nature is in the majority, which holds that "human nature is to constantly attract or be attracted to the opposite sex." There are also quite a few people who reflect on it and think that "love disappears because of neglecting the management of feelings in marriage." This theory of nature and a social explanation constitute the mainstream explanation of the causes of extramarital love.
60% do not tolerate partner emotional infidelity.
Most voters have high demands on their partners’ spiritual loyalty, and 60% of them "can’t tolerate their partner emotional infidelity", but 66% of them say that they "occasionally emotional infidelity". When a partner falls in love with someone else in marriage, 37% people do not hesitate to choose "give up", while 22% people "try their best to get it back".
Among the voters, 61% have never met a third party, but 39% have. This figure is not very optimistic. The unstable factors in marriage are increasing, so everyone should be vigilant. As a result, 48% of people "will read their lover’s mobile phone, email and online chat records". Their reasons are "I want to know each other’s heart" or "I just want to be practical in my heart". Those who choose "No" want to "give each other free space" and "I should trust each other". There are also a few people who take the attitude of out of sight, out of mind, and they don’t look at their lover’s records on the grounds that "that will only increase their troubles."
It’s normal to have a confidant of the opposite sex
Extramarital love and extramarital good friends of the opposite sex are not the same concept. Modern people have a wide range of social contacts, and it is normal to have several heterosexual confidants. The survey shows that more than half of the voters have such good friends. But the existence of heterosexual friends means "threat" to the other half of many married people, and at least 47% people think so.
Ambiguity is another kind of emotion different from extramarital love and extramarital good friends of the opposite sex, which is closer than good friends in scale, but farther than lovers. Among the more than 8,000 people who voted, 35% thought that "this is an emotional experience that everyone will encounter, which is normal and needs no excessive evaluation". 31% people think that "this is a wonderful emotional experience, and restraint is a virtue". Among the voters, 73% have had or are experiencing ambiguous emotional experiences.
More people’s overall feelings about this year’s marriage are "flat and faint". The average score of 8084 voters on "marital happiness" was 61.77. Among the three parts of Chinese’s love situation, marriage has the highest score, but obviously, it also has the most internal contradictions. Perhaps it is precisely because marriage is too complicated and unclear that more talents prevaricate with vague "insipid". According to New Century Weekly
nature
Slightly more satisfied than dissatisfied.
Average score of "sexual satisfaction": 59.68.
Either one or more than four, the survey shows a polarization trend in the number of alternative sexual partners. Those who have two or four sexual partners, together, are less than 37% of the total votes (10155).
Most people think that sex and love are inseparable, and that it is two people who love each other who can have sex with them. 24% people strictly limit their sexual activities to husband and wife in concept. Another 22% people think that "it doesn’t matter, sex is sex". The latter two viewpoints, one is relatively conservative, the other is relatively free and the power is balanced.
Sex is part of the relationship between men and women.
Among the 10404 responses, 24.76% said that they had bought sexual services, that is, about one in five people. The more secretive sex is, the more common people’s understanding of it is. In more than 10,000 "sexual attitudes" votes, more than half gave "sex is a part of the relationship between men and women, like eating".
Sexual happiness is a basic part of a healthy adult life. The frequency of sexual life is enough, the duration of sexual love is long enough, and orgasm is achieved, which are several important indicators to achieve "sexual happiness". Among more than 10,000 voters, 60% have sex once or more a week. Among them, most of them have sex once or twice, accounting for 65% of those who have sex once or more, and those who have sex more than five times are relatively rare, and only one out of 15 people. Among voters, the duration of sex is concentrated in 10 minutes to 20 minutes, followed by 5 minutes to 10 minutes. But among them, most people can often enjoy orgasm.
Feeling each other’s love is the most important thing.
The richness of sexual life will also enhance the sense of "sexual happiness". Among them, the "AIDS" that may enhance "sexual interest" are not popular among voters, and 82% said that they never use AIDS. More than half said they never took their sex life outside the bedroom. For the self-portrait sex DV, 46% people said that "I haven’t filmed it, just watch others shoot it, and I won’t try it myself". Another 21% of the second highest proportion think that this matter is not easy to evaluate.
"Feeling each other’s love" is the most important thing for most voters in their sexual life. The "happiness" factor is second. Although good sex can relieve stress, it is obviously not the main purpose for voters. Only one of 32 people holds the idea of "decompression".
This year, more people think their sex life is "average". In contrast, there are slightly more "satisfied" people than "not satisfied" people. The average score of 10,236 voters on "sexual satisfaction" is 59.68, which is considered as a pass if rounded off.
Editor: Wang Jiaolong